Rejection – Your Loss

I’ve had my rejections in life, as most people have experienced. It’s easy to take some comfort by putting the loss of a connection with me on the shoulders of the other.

I drew a witch when I was about 8. Have faith. I’ll join the dots.

The theme for this particular Saturday art class for young people was to use the theme of Halloween. I thought that sounded like fun, and I plunged in with a thoughtfully selected construction paper of solid black. What could possibly go wrong?

I started the draw with a witch’s pointed hat towards the top centre of the page. Done.

Then I started filling in some houses, people and a street light in the bottom half. Then came my piece-de-resistance. I put the broom just above in the centre of the paper.

Now I drew the witch, riding on the broom. I was just about finished when I realized the head and the hat were several inches apart. There was no time to start over. I couldn’t erase it. The undo button hadn’t been invented yet. The class was just about over.

I decided to add some indication of a strong wind blowing that the viewer would understand had blown the hat off of the witch.

My mother came to pick me up for the walk home. I proudly showed off my creation, including the action interpretation.

“Oh, you’re so creative,” she said.

 “Yes, I am.” I glowed.

I’ve kept that picture over the years, although I can’t swear I could find it. Sometimes, the thing I look at, made, or otherwise had on hand is OK, not because it is but because of the perspective used to understand it.

A quick aside. Think of two people looking at a large drawing of a number – one standing at the top and the other at the bottom. “It’s a 6, not a 9.” A simple underscore, 6, would have prepared each for the ‘correct’ perspective.

Of course, they are both right based on their perspective.

So, I don’t accept rejection from others very well. First, I consider the possibilities of perspective. It doesn’t always work, nor should it. But it sure has helped me over the years.

Please give this a bit of a think. When did you experience rejection or negative response and thought, “they just don’t get it, do they?”

If you had a mulligan, do-over, could you have set the stage differently so the other person might be open to a different POV? Think ahead to something that others might give their opinion about. Can you help them to ‘get it’ better?

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